Rahaf (00:44)
Hello, welcome back to the Really Rahaf podcast. We have a special guest on our episode today and I love to start off with like first, how we met. So I'm gonna let you say who you are and we can talk about how we met. Welcome.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (01:00)
Thank you. Hello, everybody. I'm so excited to be here today. My name is Lindsay Schroeder and I am a professional priestess. And today we get to share with you guys about those aligned connections that you just you feel and you know, and you allow the world to rearrange in front of you. And one of my favorite things is being able to connect through the Internet with just that little circle. Like so many times I've reached out to someone on Instagram or on
Threads or on TikTok from truly just their like bio or just one comment that they made on something or one post that is just like, ⁓ I can see so much of who you are as a being and what you stand for. And I really feel like that was such a beautiful piece of us interacting through the Internet and just like knowing the full vibrational blueprint of what I was going to get when we finally like got to connect and being like, yep.
That's how it's supposed to feel. That's how it goes. And being able to do these collaboration over competition embodiments of like, yes, from the outside, it might look like our ideal client is so similar. And it might be so like masculine over here to like fight it out. And yet in this new way of doing business, not just in the feminine, because we all have both
aspects within us, but in allowing the feminine to lead and in choosing collaboration over competition of being like, okay, how do these things come together? And how does this like feed both of us in such a deep, beautiful way? And just that like first conversation between the two of us, I was like, my face hurts at the end of this and like all like giddy and smiley and like, yeah, that and yeah, that and yeah, that too. So I'm very excited to be here.
Rahaf (02:48)
I love
that we met on threads because threads really is that like community and collaboration. And I also love that you said that there is that fine line between competition and collaboration, especially when you meet people in the same fields. But when you think about the energetics of competition, especially when it comes to, you know, talking about the same topics to impact, where's the competition in that? So I love, love, love already what we're off to.
You know, you identify as a priestess. So tell me like what that word means instead of, you know, like what we hear on social media, the aesthetic, the archetype that people see, but to you, what does the word priestess mean?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (03:28)
Yeah, when I transitioned from self-identifying as a coach or as a healer or even as a practitioner, because I used practitioner as this like bridge for a while, when I finally got to the place of self-identifying as a priestess, because I had been given the title from several places, but when I got to the point to self-identify where I was calling myself a priestess, I was owning that title, that level, it was an embodiment which
to me means that when I was coaching, when I was healing, I could step into that and could come out of it. I could be a healer in this session, but then I could be a regular person over here. And when I access this level of being called by the feminine face of God, being called by the mycelium, being called by the mushrooms, being called by these different pieces and being
ordained as a priestess, as the mouthpiece, I had to go through this massive reclamation because I grew up Catholic. And so my most intimate understanding of that level of that, ⁓ you are connecting to a higher power and not speaking for, but you are a lot of times translating, you are helping others to digest, you are supporting in those adaptations to embody, and you are
expressing yourself as a living embodiment of that which you are teaching. And I was like, there's no more like, here's Lindsay Schroeder, the person and then here's the healer, here's the co- It is, I am one with this. And yes, a version of me can take the forefront. And I do often talk about the difference between my witch, who is my like human magical worker, and my priestess, who is my cosmic magical worker.
Rahaf (05:05)
Yes.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (05:18)
And we can share the sunlight, so to speak, of like who's in the forefront, but there is no more separation. There's no more difference. And so it is a ⁓ living expression where like I am a living workshop of this. It's no longer something that I'm just interested in doing or interested in being like I am this thing. And so I make my mistakes as a priestess as much as I like have my accomplishments as her as well.
It is, it was a big transition. was much heavier and it was much broader than I had originally thought because of like you're saying the aesthetic of it of, ⁓ I'm, I'll wear that outfit. I will choose that thing. I will be that. It's different.
Rahaf (06:08)
Yeah, yeah. you talk a lot about I am her, we are one and our listeners, you know, our coaches, they're heart led, they're building their business, they're scaling their business and they're really tapping into the energetic alignment of being able to
follow their intuition and to trust their intuition and make decisions from their intuition, which is so different than what we've been taught with that hustle culture, the nine to five mindset. And that transition can be tough of when you become a business owner and when you scale and you're hearing all of these things around you saying, no, this is how you're supposed to scale your business. You're supposed to do all these external things. But what I'm hearing from you and a lot of the work that I do as well is this finding that intuition and trusting it. So my question for you is like,
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (06:30)
Yes.
Rahaf (06:50)
What does that level of embodiment require from someone, coach who is scaling her business?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (06:55)
Yeah, one of my favorite ways to encapsulate that is a lot of times when who you're describing, the like individual who's going to hear this and go, yeah, that's like that clicks for me. They have collected all of these modalities, all of these skill sets, all of these learnings, all of these lessons, all of this knowledge. And there's a difference between, okay, I have this overflowing toolbox.
And in the moment when I'm on my call or when I'm writing my sales page or when I'm doing my this or when I'm choosing between do I hire an ads firm or do I redo my website and you're making these big decisions that you turn to your toolbox and you pull one out and you look and you pull one out and you look and you're like, okay, maybe I'll use this one. There's a big difference between that. And I am the living synthesis. I am my own modality.
And so yes, sometimes I include EFT and sometimes I have NLP and sometimes I'm using a releasing practice and sometimes it is bilateral stimulation for this. But you are the living modality. And so a lot of coaches, healers, practitioners will choose to work with me at that precipice point of like, I am bumping into the edges of doing it technically.
And so it's not that we're letting go of the technical, we're not letting go of the practical, we're not letting go of the scientific, but that there is this, we'll use the corporate term, there is this synergy of it starts to flow and it starts to be a living expression that moves through me instead of I turn to my toolbox and I remember this is the situation for this and this is the situation for this and this is when I use this. And that is where you lean on the intuition and allow the intuition to take the forefront
in those very strategic moments. And then you're checking and you're backing it up with the science, with the technicality, with the neuroscience, with the brain, with the semantics. And you know what mean? You are oscillating between the two, but that the intuition is the thing that starts it. And then you fill in the rest of it afterwards.
Rahaf (09:01)
So good because what kind of strategy can we put on top if the intuition is not grounded if that's not the forefront and not to mention what you're talking about really speaks to the fulfillment of the containers that our coaches have but also
how they're showing up on social media, how they're pricing their containers. Because if, you know, I've had so many clients say to me like, I don't really have a lot of stuff to put in my container. I don't have this course. I'm like, you are the container, your energy, your access, your divine capabilities of how you channel to sit with your clients. I don't care what kind of coach you are. That's the energy that you are holding in the container. And it's so easy to think I need all these.
these extra things to pile on, these bonuses and courses. It's like, yes, like you said, you can have these things in your toolbox to integrate, but the energy that they get to be plugged into is what creates the transformation for the client.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (09:54)
Hmm.
And it's the difference between I have built something that is sound, that is technically proficient, that, you know what I mean? I've checked all those boxes and building something that is like, you love to offer. That like it, you bypass this difficulty of selling it because you're so enthusiastic about it. You're so aligned with it. You live it and you breathe it, forces.
so many people who I see who build as if they're still in a corporate job. They build in the confinement of a container of society, of the matrix, of the pressures of especially like as womb holders of what society told of us, demands of us in the good girl archetype, and where you're not not bookending but actually containing your magic, forcing it into look like this little box on a hillside versus
⁓ I am leading with my intuition in a way that only I can do and be. And then I am making sure that I'm also fitting in those technicalities of using systems and using photos and using structures and staying aware of what's going on in the industry. So just like a use the example of a great chef, you go to school and you learn all of these different things so that when you come out of school, you're like, OK, now I'm going to talk all those rules and I'm going to do whatever I want that's in alignment with me.
Rahaf (10:58)
Making sure that I'm also fitting in those technicalities of using systems and using codes and using structures and staying aware of what's going on in the industry. just like I use the example of a great chef. You go to school and you learn all of these different things so that when you come out of school, you're like, okay, now I'm going all those girls and I'm going to do whatever I want that's in alignment with
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (11:20)
But it does take the foundation of knowing those pieces and staying current in your industry to go, yeah, I am
Rahaf (11:20)
me. It does take the foundation of knowing those pieces of the same current in your industry.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (11:27)
going to buck the system in that way and do it completely different because that is what's aligned for me.
Rahaf (11:33)
Yes, yes, because if you didn't, if you followed that path that we thought, we're supposed to follow and be the good girl. Also too, you know, there is that layer of us women, like you said, like we have a 28 day cycle and this
structure was built on a masculine cycle. So when we're trying to do that and try to embody that in our own business and try to use energy work and intuition, it's like taking a square peg and fitting it in a circle hole. It's like, why isn't it fitting? Well, there is this disconnect where we need to step into the trust of, there's a reason why I'm doing this and I'm holding these spaces because something doesn't vibe with that masculine structure. But there's that element of trust. And I'm curious, like you've worked with people that are in that transition of moving from corporate
to becoming entrepreneurs, what do you feel like is in that gap? know, trust, curiosity, what else is in there?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (12:21)
Mm-hmm.
Yeah, a lot of the people that I work with are in that of moving from corporate into entrepreneurship, or I love this one too, entrepreneurship into solepreneurship. So that person that I'm talking about who built their entrepreneurial offering business structure, whatever, but built it like it was corporate. Like if you're not answering emails at 9 a.m. Monday through Friday, you're not doing it right. And if you don't do this thing and if you don't offer in this way and if you don't start with these things,
So like corporate into entrepreneur, entrepreneur into solprenuer. And then like we already mentioned, I have all of these modalities, but now I'm becoming the modality. And the piece that I'm often seeing is a lot of these people are stuck in the self-awareness hamster wheel, where self-awareness was so supportive to so many of us, especially those of us who grew up without any of that self-awareness, that emotional intelligence. so...
putting language to it, talking about it, going to therapy and having someone reflect back, hey, that's not okay, that's not cool, that's not how it should be or gets to be, or we do trace it back of where it started and these original pieces. But for a lot of us, especially, once again, womb holders, we get into this hamster wheel of I see it all, I see it all, pattern recognition, pattern recognition, and
Rahaf (13:34)
Yes. Yes.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (13:44)
We're not changing anything. And so the missing piece for me a lot of times is inner alchemy of really understanding how do I transmute inside myself so that the energy isn't taking me, it flows through me and that I'm able to take that
moment. I'm able to offer myself that breath. I'm able to offer myself that regulation practice. Sometimes something so subtle like rubbing.
Rahaf (14:10)
Sometimes something so...
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (14:12)
the fingertips together enough to feel the ridges while you're standing in front of a group and taking a three second pause to offer in clarity and in strength and in power and not, I'm trying to be powerful, but I am allowing the power to exude through me. And that inner alchemy piece is the bridge, is the quantum transformation, which is we don't step from here over the bridge, we transport.
Rahaf (14:34)
is the bridge, is the quantum transformation, is, we don't separate.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (14:42)
truly quantum leap and inner alchemy is the ability for us to not just quantum leap but then to be able to hold it so it doesn't snap back after a little bit.
Rahaf (14:55)
I Mean Lindsay I just gotta say like I I don't know if you guys are hearing this like feeling this the listeners But your resonance like the way I'm feeling like tingles all over my body right now. I'm feeling goosebumps I can only imagine the containers you hold because of what we're talking about the embodiment of the energy and you being able to Take care of yourself so well so that you can
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (14:59)
Okay.
Rahaf (15:15)
be that for your clients. And this really speaks a lot to the value of having a coach. You said it's so important to have someone be in your corner, hold the mirror. Because of that transition, it can be so easy for our nervous system to fall back into what we know of, I gotta go back to the hustle. I gotta go back to rationalizing that I gotta do more instead of be more. So by having that support, whoever it is that we feel that alignment with,
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (15:35)
Yes.
Rahaf (15:41)
They get to take us out of our bias. They get to have that third person perspective, which is why I've had a coach in my corner for five years, because it's so easy to think that that is the right way. when we think of how people talk about inner alchemy, like the mindset work or the manifestation practices, there's something deeper to inner alchemy. So can you, can you talk about that a little bit more?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (16:00)
Yeah. Yes.
I think a lot of times, you know, we see people thinking that inner alchemy is this mindset. And I hear that a lot of like, ⁓ I'm just going to like train this. I'm just going to like think in this way. And like, it'll it'll make it. And inner alchemy for me is not
just mindset work. It's not just the positive thinking. And mindset work and positive thinking are both important, but it's not this spiritual bypassing out of. It's not the endless processing, especially of the past. And it's also not, and for a lot of healers, this is important. It's not needing an external tool every time something happens.
like inner alchemy for me is that difference point that is personal to each of us that is beyond noticing the pattern and being run by it, but noticing the pattern and choosing differently anyway. And I think that is such a big important piece that like, how do I not lose my authority in those 30 seconds after my like...
activation after the edge, the ability to not just know better but actually do better in real time. The awareness is that I can see what's happening. Alchemy is I can change what happens next.
Rahaf (17:36)
it's that responsibility too what does real integration look like after the ceremony, after the ritual, after the deep inner work? How do you integrate it?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (17:47)
Yeah. Repetition is, think repetition and consistency is something that is so easy to overlook that like writing it down in a journal or sharing it in for a lot of ceremony work, that integration piece right afterwards, that I think is the Instagram version of integration of like, okay, you wrote it down. you shared it with some, but this lived.
practice of over and over and over again, and oftentimes outside of those triggered moments, am I practicing that when I'm not at the absolute edge? And am I using that in these situations that feel less high stakes and really expanding the capacity? One of the biggest pieces that I like to share in this is the individual who is regulating over and over and over just to move the big emotions out.
Rahaf (18:24)
Mmm.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (18:42)
and then the individual who regulates and then brings that discomfort back in and sits with that discomfort at the higher capacity and then is able to look at, why is there discomfort in that? And then what is that sharing with me? What is that teaching me? In what way can I hold the lesson and release the suffering? And like that lived practice, which is so unique to each person. And I think that is one of the big things that
has been a difficult professional piece of my own work because a lot of times in our industry we're taught, know, birth your signature offering, your, you know, method, your five steps to do blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, yes, but it has to be so particular to you. And so utilizing my gift and skill set of being able to see your divine path of service, of being able to see your soul's blueprint, of being able to integrate the pieces of information that you've collected over time of
What's your human design authority type? And what have your gene keys really stands out to you? And maybe astrology did this and maybe this other piece over here, but what is your process of inner alchemy versus here's five somatic practices and here's how you rewire a limiting belief. And I can teach those same skills to 10 different people, but your unique synthesis of you do the same thing every single time or you someone who checks in on the situation and
picks one of these? Do you do a morning practice every day or do you just commit to a certain amount of time in your day? Do you have to be in ceremony once and really figuring out how do I connect to my own field? How do I connect to the oneness and be able to synthesize for my own self? Not just in the right here and now as in, you know, January of 2026, but the eternal here and now.
And how is that skill set mind so that my clients aren't going, Lindsay can give me that answer. But then in three months or in six months or in a year, I have to come back and have her tell me again. You know, I want to show you how to do that, how to feel that little port here, that little tug here, that little nudge there
Rahaf (20:40)
Lindsey can give you that, but if it's done in three months or six months or a year, I have to come back and have her change it again.
you can give a man a fish or you can teach a man how to fish. And I think that's the real power and the responsibility of being a coach is really thinking about the longevity of what's the most powerful for the container of really teaching them how to fish, how they can take everything they see on social media of the quick little five steps to do this and really make it customized to who they are because
There's granularity in everybody. Everyone has their own archetype and design and sign and there's so much complexity and uniqueness and everyone, like you said, has their own soul's blueprint. So being able to find the nuances in each person, that is part of the responsibility of being a spiritual leader, a healer, a priestess, a guide. So for you, because we have a lot of healers listening to this and finding that line with selling and showing up and still staying in integrity of their values.
and then being able to hold these containers. But for you, what responsibilities come with the work that you do, that you bring into your containers?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (21:50)
Yeah, well one of the big responsibilities of shifting from coach or leader practitioner to priestess was having the radical self-responsibility of all of my own things because I think a lot of us get stuck in the like coach healer practitioner space of like, I can only teach on things that I am further than for someone else and in priestesshood that's not the same truth.
Like I am holding space for people who are financially way more successful than I am, who want things that I don't want, large teams, whereas that's not necessarily something that I'm called to that I desire. And you have to work through this, do I have to be bigger, better, more accomplished in their realm to be able to support and to hold? And in priestesshood, that completely bucked that whole system because
who I am called to serve is not just making other me's. And I think in the coaching industry, a lot of times that's a really safe starting space of like, okay, you only have to be a few steps further than someone else and you can bring someone else into that coaching lineage or we're teaching wellness or we're teaching somatics or we're teaching this thing. And then when you step into priestess hood, you're like, ⁓ I'm guiding, I'm holding space for, I'm
helping to synthesize answers in arenas that I will never play in, who am I to be doing that? And like that takes a lot of radical responsibility and a lot of authenticity of being able to share the truth of who I am and what I am and what I'm creating for myself and being able to go, I can be at my own rock bottom and still be offering this to someone else.
because this is my own cycle and this is yours. And in soulpreneurship you will offer your great work during a difficult period of time for yourself. And it is quite a passage and important to move through that with and of and for yourself. And I feel the path of the priestess is oftentimes
Rahaf (23:43)
Yes.
⁓ my god. my god. ⁓
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (24:05)
going to deeper, darker depths so that I'm able to hold others in their fractals, in their pieces, in their losses, in their grief.
Rahaf (24:17)
that resonates so much we have this idea where we think that we have to be fully healed. Like there is this destination, like there's a destination for fully healed, which is by the way, also a very corporate mindset of a finish line mentality that we have to be able to do all these things. And then I could hold space.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (24:32)
Yes.
Yes.
Rahaf (24:37)
and then
I can raise my prices and then I'm ready to do this and then I can serve this person when the reason why we experience the shadow work, that's why we can hold these powerful spaces because we are able to take ourself to those trenches and the depth of the work. We're not all hiding out in this cave and we're like, all right, I'm gonna go work on my work now and just shut myself away from everyone and then I'll come out and then I can help. So I love that you touched on that because...
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (24:48)
Yes.
Rahaf (25:03)
That really is not a goal. It's not even a place to go. And I don't believe that. I don't really believe in destinations either. I really believe in the journey of what this work is.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (25:10)
Yes,
I express that as shifting from destination-based living to what is your vehicle? What is your method of travel? Can you travel in happiness? Can you travel in fulfillment? Can you travel in pleasure? And for a lot of us, it is this polarity almost of like, I can be going through the most difficult thing. I can be going through hardship. I can be experiencing emptiness. can be
doubting myself and yet can I still be present in the sacredness of this offering because it is all ceremony and I feel like so many of us who are called to this collective awakening of stepping into the forefront of being a leader, being a teacher, being willing to go, I am not perfect. I am not all the way healed but also I'm not broken and I am both in the same that like I am this
higher being, having this human experience and that I can lead and teach and be this living embodiment of this while I can also struggle in my humanity. But yet that is part of it and being able to authentically express that to the people who are like called to work with you. That truth is the way that we navigate the AI revolution is that like we are not just
the perfect sales page of like, here's where I am struggling or here's where one piece of my life is like so difficult and hard for me. And yet here is my living embodiment, my teachings, my offerings and how I can hold you in this. like, I am not telling you I am on this pedestal above you. A lot of my work, I always remind people that like this is a remembrance. Nothing that I'm telling you is something that you don't already know within yourself. Otherwise it won't sit, it won't settle.
And so honoring the fact that like it is deep within you, the way I say it might click in for your human in a way that it hasn't before, but it is a remembrance. It is a resurgence of this.
Rahaf (27:05)
Yeah.
Yes. And you speak with such integrity and ethics in the deep spiritual work of the containers you hold. And you spoke about that responsibility before, but I wonder if we could go a layer deeper on what practices you do daily, weekly that really make you feel so deeply ethical and integrity with that work
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (27:40)
Mm-hmm. Yeah. One of the big pieces for me is about the connection to the higher power and how difficult that can be, especially because the majority of us grew up inundated with Abrahamic religion, inundated with how bad and wrong and shameful the feminine body is. I can't tell you how much work I do consistently of just being able to
like speak the word priestess from my own lips as like saying that I have a connection with the divine, with the higher power. I've been accused of being a cult leader. I've been accused of being a snake oil salesman. I have been accused of all of those things and to be able to hold your inner truth and go, okay, all of those opinions, all of those words, all of those projections, all of that hate, like I don't have to take it personally.
Rahaf (28:11)
Hmm.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (28:37)
I don't have to take it in and I also can utilize that. went through this point of originally I tried the I'm rubber and you're glue whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you. And then I got to this place around the time of shifting into that embodied priestess hood where I was like energy is energy baby. Like if you're giving me attention, if you're giving me time, if you're giving me energy, if you're giving me your focus, I'm going to bottle that up and I'm going to use that how I desire to use that.
And so really being able to not just shift the perspective, not just the awareness. It's one thing to see that. It's one thing to say energy is energy is energy. It's another thing to go, okay, but is that going to take me down? Am I going to go cry in the bathroom? Is that going to stop me from launching something? Is that going to change the language I put on my sales page? Is that going to, you know, instead of five stories a week or a day, am I only going to put up one? Is that, I don't put links on anything. Is that like,
I don't have a CTA in my because that's not spiritual or I shouldn't charge for this. When those are not my conscious thoughts, those are thoughts that are I'm aware of and going, OK, I get to hone and I get to go in through my own operating system and choose. No, those thoughts coming up, that doesn't serve me. So I'm going to shift. I'm going to change. I'm going to alchemize that. But it is an inner practice and it is repetition and consistency. So I am.
sitting with that higher power over and over and over again. And there are times where I connect and I reach out and I'm like, you know, God, goddess, father, mother, God, mother, father, goddess, great one, great spirit. However you want to say that, speak to me, share with me, answer this question for me. And it's fucking crickets. Or I'm thinking about my grocery list or.
Rahaf (30:05)
Thank
you
Yeah.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (30:29)
I snap at my partner or I have road rage and my middle finger comes out and it's what do I do before that happens? What do I do during that happening? What do I do after that happening? And how fast can I come back to the priestess? How much can I honor my human experience while also knowing that each of these pieces of divine technology are for me to wield? That I am both the first
person in the video game trapped into the matrix and also holding the controller. And how do I have that snake eating its own tail experience and flow with it instead of fighting against it?
Rahaf (31:06)
Yeah. And it can be hard too when we get into, like we said before, the hustle part of thinking we need to do more that we lose that connection with what's beyond us. what's a tangible quick little tool of being able to come back and connect to that magic so that we can receive these downloads?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (31:24)
This one is one that I don't hear and don't see on Instagram as like, guys, try this. You have probably heard a healer make a noise kind of like this, where they're like breathing quickly. It kind of sounds like a quick out breath or maybe they're snorting from the nose or blowing air out the mouth. I feel like giving these...
vibrational tools, helping people to conceptualize not just the things that we can write down, not just the things that we can see our bodies doing, that we can like reprogram in this way, but allowing them to kind of bridge that magical gap with sound and with breath and not just technical breath work session and not just, I have a crystal singing bowl or I'm playing with this chime or I'm working my drum.
but you yourself as the instrumentation. so breath and sound in this unique way to actually give yourself a little bit of space to clear something out. So I'm sitting in my car and I am hearing myself swearing at the person next to me. My middle finger is out and I'm like, whoa, what just happened? Like I got taken. I'm in my autopilot. Like a lower part of my consciousness is leading and I'm going to go.
Couple of times, maybe I shake it out and I come back to sell.
And then I look around and I'm like, okay, how do I feel now?
And just that blowing it out gives me a little bit of space beyond the auric field, moves it through the somatics, moves it out of the mind, fires a new, you know, synapse in the brain and kind of connects all of my different systems through breath and through sound. And so I really encourage you guys to try what skill set you have inside here. So for some of us, this might be tapping on the body. For some of us, it might be making
a sound for my little one. She like uses sound all the time where she actually tries to make the sound of the feeling that she's feeling, where she'll be like, and she'll like get stuck in it. And then at the end, it lets it go where you fully get to embody the sensation, the stickiness, the stagnation in that sound, and then you're releasing it. And so it's it's experiencing it. It's not
bypassing. It's not, you know, just automatically go into the business association and the scroll. It's being with it, but I'm not letting it take me in the same way that it used to.
Rahaf (34:05)
Wow. What about the forgiveness aspect? with your example, you you have someone, they blow up, they get road rage. Well, they can tell that that really conflicts with their values of being this good person. So what about the forgiveness? technique?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (34:16)
Uh-uh.
A lot of times I find that the forgiveness is not happening in that moment. So if we think about ourselves as the inner child, when the child is dysregulated, the child screaming, when the child trying to throw hands, it's not the time to like offer the forgiveness and the repair. We need to move it through. So we're offering the sound, the semantics, the doing. And then when you've relaxed, when you've gotten through that
10 seconds, 30 seconds, because it goes fast. When you're angry, when you're aggressive, when you're grief stricken, the height of that only lasts for most of us like seven seconds, 10 seconds, maybe 30 seconds. And then there's this moment where you choose, where you're like, I'm not done with that feeling. So I'm going to tell myself the story of what just happened. No, they cut me off. No, no, they did to validate my experience so that I can stay in that feeling longer.
So that we wanna catch. If we can catch that, then we can let that go one more time. We're gonna let go of that. And then we can get into, can I find sympathy? Can I find empathy? Can I move all the way up to the compassion? And when I get to the compassion of, I don't desire to change anything because it's happened. I can't change that, but I can change the right here and the right now.
And so replaying the game tape and berating myself for what I did and what I tried, none of that actually supports the self in the present, here and now. And the eternal here and now is the only moment. Once it's passed, the only way that it is alive is in your memory. And when you bring it back up, you're bringing it back up into your reality. So what serves you?
Rahaf (35:43)
the game chief and berating myself for what I did and what I chose to come up that path.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (36:04)
What serves the collective? What serves your child? What serves your partner? What serves the other people who share the road with you after that moment? The compassion, the forgiveness, and the placing your focus on where it is that you desire to go. So I felt myself getting up into that space. What could I have offered to myself in this moment instead of my lash out moment? Can I offer what solved the problem before the problem arises? Can I change the music that I'm
Rahaf (36:13)
and the policing work focus on heritage and human honor. So I ask myself, getting public about race, what could I offer to myself in this?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (36:32)
Can I be more intentional with what I'm inputting? Can I offer myself these pieces prior to so that I am consciously creating instead of just responding?
Rahaf (36:43)
Yeah, there's a lot of power in there, a lot of power of choosing to redirect energy and in quick moments too, which takes a really deep level of awareness to even see what's happening and to see yourself as the observer instead of being in it and being the emotional. And that also helps with running a business is really seeing as, okay, this is the business and what am I letting?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (36:48)
Yes.
Rahaf (37:03)
become personal. What am I letting become a part of me when this is outside of me?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (37:08)
Mm hmm. yeah. I mean, the four agreements when applied to our businesses can be unbelievably supportive and helpful where we're like, okay, don't make assumptions. Like what would change in my entrepreneurial, solprenueral journey if I didn't make assumptions, if I didn't take it personally, if I am and for those of us who are living embodiments of their work who are, I birth myself as the modality, that becomes complicated where you're like,
but I am my business, but I am the thing that I offer. And yet you are not. Like I am the priestess, but Our and are is my brand and my business and the service that I provide and the container is not the same thing as the priestess. So moving through, I'm not going to make assumptions. I'm not going to take it personally. I'm always going to try my best. I'm always going to give my best and I'm going to be impeccable with my word.
I think taking this for agreements and applying it to the business gives oftentimes so much immediate relief to this weight of all of these things that we carry because society has told us the more that you carry is the more that you care. No, no, that helps the society that helps all of the programming that helps what we are pushed and forced into that helps the control that does not help you.
Rahaf (38:21)
Hmm ⁓
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (38:33)
That does not help your aligned clients. That doesn't help the collective. That doesn't help what you are here to offer and do and be. It doesn't smooth the pathway for you. It doesn't offer expansion. It makes you more controllable and more programmable. The more that you are carrying, the more that you are like, oh, let me process again. Let me look at it again. Let me, let me go over it again. That's why a lot of the people that I work with there, I find that they're caught in this hamster wheel of the self-awareness. And it's like,
Rahaf (38:33)
No.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (39:02)
one quantum little leapy over to inner alchemy and you will no longer just be seeing it? You mentioned the unaware to conscious observer. We want to shift that full triangle piece from unaware to conscious observer into conscious creator. And how do I expand my capacity to be able to hold conscious creator more and more and more often in the conscious? And how do I update my subconscious so that my autopilot
is better, is more aligned, is truer, is my choice as well. Not just what my parents gave me or what school gave me or what sports gave me or what society gave me. But can I actually look at that and choose line by line in my own code how I want to
Rahaf (39:48)
is there anything coming through as far as a message for the listener right now?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (39:53)
Yeah, I want to share with the majority of you who are business owners and who are also magical beings. And several of you are going to go, yeah, that's me. And others of you are like, I'm not sure. I don't know. I want. But the entirety of all of you are. And so like that little flicker of like, is it magic? Is it just subconscious reprogramming? Is it the science?
science is always catching up to the magic. So that which we as like healers and priestesses have been talking about for hundreds of thousands of years, science catches up little bit by little bit. How many years ago were we doing the dance of like quantum entanglement is not a thing. And now we're giving out awards for the proof of quantum entanglement. And so this piece that used to be
The woo, the outside of the norm, the dark, the other, these pieces that used to be only those who did plant medicines or those who identified as witches. This is for all of you. Entrepreneurship is spiritual. Entrepreneurship is the grandest personal development and spiritual process that you will ever go on.
So leaning only on the practical, only on the technical, misses out on the fullness of your divine path of service, on the fullness of your soul's blueprint. So every single one of you has clairs abilities, has gifts, has activations, has these sacred remembrances. And I can say with very strong confidence that 99.99 % of you, if not 100 % of you,
have done this in a previous life. Very, very few of us are called to this forefront position in the collective. Very few of us are called to help, support, to lead, to guide, to architect. When you haven't done this in a past lineage, like your actual blood and bone ancestry, as well as your akasha. So magic or quantum or the no-thing space.
the like space in between the protons, the neutrons and the electrons, it is for you. Whether or not you're a healer, whether or not you're a wielder of something technical like Reiki or crystal, you have a magic inside yourself. It's all of the empty space between each of those protons, neutrons and electrons. And you deserve, you get to, are destined to work with that too. Just a...
Rahaf (42:31)
to our captain to work with us.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (42:35)
like you little TED Talk for right now, like you are the magic. I desire for you to be able to wield it intentionally. And that is what inner alchemy, that is what conscious creator really is about, of being able to synthesize all of these pieces, but knowing that the empty space within the self, the space where the soul and habits in between the body and the mind is your magic. No one can take it from you. Nobody can give it to you. Now there are some of us
can help you access it, understand it, language it better and wield it with more confidence and power
Rahaf (43:10)
And that's what you do is you help these practitioners, these healers who are ready to transition from what you said, having the modalities to becoming a modality how they show up and really tapping into that depth, that inner alchemy. So you mentioned you have a mastermind coming up. Can you tell us a little about that?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (43:26)
Dear Lord.
Yes, the I Am Mastermind My Signature program, the Inner Alchemy Mastermind is going to launch in February. For those of you who know that the Gregorian calendar is not the technical new year, we launch closer to the actual new year. We're thinking the newness is birthing and budding. We get that last little bit of like, okay, what are we releasing? Really honoring. What are we letting go of?
What are all of these things that once again, you're very aware of? That's my old pattern, that's my old loop, I've been doing that since childhood. that's my mom showing up. that's my old coach. that's the first time that I was triggered in sixth grade from not being good enough. All of these pieces that are so ready to be let go and released. And then how do we utilize that inner alchemy? How do you synthesize for your own self so that we can see it, like it, want it, create it, and consistently.
with all of your skill sets, with all of your tools? How do you birth yourself as the modality? How do you do that again and again with every upgrade? How do you speak to something that's a couple of degrees off from what everyone else is doing in this way that is unshakable, unfuckwithable, and how do I break it down to be able to practice it? Mind, body, energy, soul expression, divine path of service, soul's blueprint. And for me, it is really creating this
container, this living workshop, this, I call it an incubator, this is the chrysalis that holds you in your full unbecoming. And so a lot of people are called to this work when they are like, okay, I've made a whole new life for myself, or I've had all these massive perspective shifts, or I've met God, or I'm ready to shed the coach title and step into something even more. I've built my business, you
Rahaf (45:04)
Okay, I'm gonna get a whole new light.
business,
know, part of the synthesis of these free coaching programs that I have time running to like, buy just.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (45:16)
as the synthesis of these three coaching programs that I took and I'm ready to like digest and embody just
for myself and learn that inner authority and learn how to transmute inside so that I'm no longer just manifesting one thing. Not I want to manifest this house or this job or this number of signups, but I know how to alchemize internally so that my internal state creates.
my physical reality around me. And when I identify something that I'm like, I don't love that, or that's not, that's not by me anymore in the same way, instead of reaching out here, we go inward. And like, how do I do that technically? So I take people who are extremely self aware, but can't seem to like, actually experience that transition. I take them through the how you guys already know the what everybody knows a lot. We all have access to so much of the knowledge. The what is everywhere.
Rahaf (45:55)
Yes.
I can't seem to actually experience that.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (46:12)
But how do I do that step by step for myself? How do I do that in consistency and repetition? How do I let that move through me? How do I live that? How do I become that living embodiment? How do I not just step into my power, but radiate my own power and authority, even when I'm not feeling well, even when I just fucked up five minutes ago, even when I just pulled into the parking lot and I did have a moment of road rage over there that I've already been able to.
rewire and soothe and release and come back into alignment and show up for that talk as my full embodied self.
A lot of times it is this, this languaging the wordless of like, I utilize my divine channel to put language to these things that sometimes feel so big. How do I say that in word? And this is so close, especially, I'm sure you know this when you get so close to your own work and you love it so much and you've been living the like education and the training and the
practice that you're like, and I don't know, it's this stuff that I do. And to have someone language it, who can see it, who can truly see you, can truly hold you, who can blend that with your divine path of service and your soul's blueprint, and who can take in the pieces that you've shared and is also watching how those pieces show up in your auric field and language it out to you of like, this. And you're like, not quite, but right. but that...
and it cascades, it tetrises so many things to click in. And then we go from just talking about it, naming it, catching that thread because we've placed language to it to, now how do you digest and how do you take one small step multiple times and then how do you let that get bigger and then how do you let that get bigger? And then also how do you allow that to quantum leap and how do you absolutely transmute and turn into a goo and then rebirth yourself?
in a way that doesn't freak your body out, that your nervous system can hold the capacity. Because there are so many times, and I've been throughout myself, where I build the dream life and then it all collapses because you can't hold it. Because you're trying to ascend out of the humanity. And a lot of times that first into second level that a lot of people come to me at the precipice of, they're like, okay, I've created all these things out here, but it's not the lived truth inside my body.
or I created something that was very financially successful, but I'm not fulfilled and enriched. Where's the missing piece, so to speak? And it is the practical as well as that esoteric, that energetic and weaving them together with very human language so that it's not just this floaty up here thing of like, let's ground it in a way that really allows you to like sink your teeth into it and understand it for your human self.
descending into the humanity, not just descending into the divinity, that infinity loop over and over and over again.
Rahaf (49:14)
Yeah. And you focus on the tangible results too. I'm curious, like what are some of these tangible results that your clients have had and what can they expect being in your mastermind?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (49:20)
Hmm
Yeah, one of my favorite ones that I've been talking about a lot is the text that you regret sending immediately after you send it. Whether that's answering something, say it's 8 p.m. or 10 p.m. and one of your clients messages you and you see it and you're automatically opening it without even really choosing it. Like you're telling yourself, oh, it's after I'm already with my partner, I've already started to relax or I'm making it and you're already like answering it right away. Or it's a text to
your partner where like they say something and you take it a certain way because you've been in your work or you've been over here. But that text that you send it immediately after you send it, you're like, ⁓ that is not in alignment with what I choose. That was my autopilot. And that's not the autopilot that I've like checked all the code for and gone line by line and like and choose. That's the autopilot of my over explaining.
That's the autopilot of proving my worth. That's the autopilot of the good girl of like, ⁓ well, they'll know how much I care about them as a client, as a partner, as a person, as a whomever, because I answered them right away, because I went outside of my boundaries. But then the next time when they just expect that because you've already taught and trained them, you're going down this spiral downward and then you're resentful and then you're upset.
Rahaf (50:34)
you
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (50:48)
because you didn't honor your own truth and self. And so I love to start with one of those really tiny specific examples, because yes, we can talk about these huge pieces of growing your income and growing your impact and sitting in your first ceremony or session where instead of going bullet point by bullet point by bullet point of what you want to teach this person, you let it flow and it's, I naturally just said what they needed to hear and I use this metaphor that I've never used before because that's what
in the field spoke to me and that like massive accomplishment, but it's also those everyday moments of being able to not send that text, to not snap, to not immediately with your team go to doing it for them, regulating for them, that you are leading from this place of embodied wisdom of like, I've digested it and it is truly who and what I am. not performing it anymore.
Rahaf (51:44)
And you know, I love that the result that you gave that example. It was an everyday moment because if we think about at the end of the day, like, what do we want? We just want to be in harmony with what we feel and how we act and being in integrity with our businesses, like these little things that we forget. That's why we want all these things. And when we are in harmony with these things, we get the external, we get the money, we get the relationships,
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (51:49)
Yeah.
Yes.
Rahaf (52:07)
the everyday moments of how do I choose to respond when I do naturally want to go to the road rage or that is my default mode? How do I have a different type of default mode?
Anything else that you want to send our listeners off to?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (52:18)
Yeah,
one of the things that we haven't had a chance to talk about that I really love to share about my work is one of the gifts that I am so grateful to have been given and blessed with and have honed is this ability for you to experience in your body, in your mind, in your energy, having your soul inside the body and
vibrationally experiencing it. So experiencing it through the thoughts, through the pictures, through the physicality and the biology, through the emotions that I am able through active practice, through ceremony, through ritual, to actually create that experience for you of who you desire to be. So sometimes that's pulling a higher self in and helping you to anchor into that and think like that version of you.
and feel like that version of you and be that version of you in this suspended no-thing space. And so for someone who's like, I have no idea what a priestess does. I have no idea what I would do in a session or ceremony or offer. Like I obviously have a lot of things that I would like, if I had a magic wand, would want to like bibbity-bobbity-boop this shit. But if you go from, I've never really heard about this. I don't understand this. Is this coaching? Is this like, what is this?
I love to express that vibrational experience that through me dropping you in, bringing you into the liminal space, getting you into that alpha or delta state, getting you into the quantum, allowing you to access the space in between your proton, your neutron and your electron, and then allowing you to experience through what you've shared with me and what you've told me and what's come up in your energy field.
Rahaf (53:46)
Mm.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (54:08)
to actually calibrate you to that experience, to feel it in the body, to experience it in the mind, to have the soul align with that version of self. And then for a lot of people, I can show you how to tread water in that, how to put your little floaties on and stay up in that space and then how to come back up to that space. And this for me goes so far beyond once again, that individual manifestation instead of like, ⁓ let's envision you in that house, let's envision you in that.
Rahaf (54:22)
Mm.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (54:37)
Let's go directly to the version of you and how your biology, how your mind, how your energy, how your essence, how your chakras, how your auric field, let's be in that and then see from those eyes and then feel with those feelings and hear with those ears. Let's smell with that nose. Let's taste with that tongue. Let's activate all of those abilities and gifts and your own synthesis and truly experience it.
So that is the best introductory offering that I have for people. You can do a 90 minute session with me as like a standalone. It has the best intake form so that we can truly collapse time in this 90 minutes. But it allows you to get a full taste and experience of what working beyond just the practical, what the true synthesis.
of being able to receive the benefit of all of the vibrational and tangible skill set of ⁓ a priestess that exists outside of the third dimension, but that knows how to anchor into the third dimension, which is the important piece.
Rahaf (55:43)
Yeah, and to be in that space is really what activates it, to let it come out. And how can people find you? Instagram, I mean, we met on threads. So what is that handle?
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (55:48)
Yes.
Yeah.
@Our and are O U R A N D A R E on Instagram, on threads, on Facebook, on TikTok, on LinkedIn. You can find me under our and are you'll also have to come check out our podcast episode when you come on my podcast and my website is our and are . com. I'll drop you all the links for the show notes for the mastermind to be able to book a 90 minute session if you're like
Rahaf (56:14)
Yup.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (56:25)
I want to feel that or like, I know that this version of self is me, but how do I become it? How do I hold it long enough for it to materialize in the third dimension? I can give you that full experience of being it, of living your truth, of living your soul's blueprint, of living your divine path of service. And once you've experienced it, once you've been there, babe, it's so much easier to get back there.
to hold it and to make choices from that place, to express yourself from that place and to feel the confinement of, that's not it. Let me release that. Let me alchemize that. Let me transmute that. And you give yourself the power of that inner authority. When you've experienced alignment and then you drop out, you're way more aware of it. And it is, I find this back end way into, okay, we could do all the technical habits stacking and look at all the,
Rahaf (56:56)
Mmm.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (57:22)
or you could experience it. And then when you fall out, see what's still left. And then we can clean those pieces up. And I think that is the biggest difference between what my service as a coach was and now what my service as a priestess is. do just the active processing. Now we do the active practice as well as the active processing.
Rahaf (57:40)
so good. So good. Yeah. All that info is going to be in the show notes. It has been so I can't even believe it's been an hour. Like that's when you know, like time doesn't even it's not even a thing when energy is so connected. And I mean, I said it before, but I just I felt goosebumps and resonance in my body just hearing you talk. And it's just we're flowing like there's there's no script here. There's there's it's just us having a conversation. I think that's the most beautiful part of the rawness of
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (57:48)
Right?
Yeah.
Rahaf (58:08)
what we talked about and we just met, which is also like just divine timing and thank you for being here, Lindsay. I'm so excited to be on your podcast. So check out her podcast. I'm gonna be an episode in there as well. if there's nothing else that you have left, it has been such a pleasure having you on the Really Rahaf podcast and we'll see you soon. Bye.
Lindsay Schroeder Of Our & Are (58:10)
Yes.
Me too.
and
Thank you, thank you, thank
you. Bye everybody.
